BUT if it’s a young lady first beginning her own ministry as a pastor’s
wife who is truly seeking counsel for the road ahead, I’m much more inclined to
be more thorough and try to share the full reality of what she might encounter,
complete with exhausting difficulty as well as unwavering joy (usually at the
very same time). In those cases, I would say something like this:
It’s watching him pour out his entire heart and soul every
Sunday morning and pray his guts out to the point of utter exhaustion that just
one of the blank stares he encounters every week might finally come to life.
BUT it’s also seeing exhilarating joy on his face when
someone experiences grace for the first time.
It’s teaching your children to graciously share their Dad
and saying things like, “We need him, but sometimes other people need him even
more.”
BUT it’s also embracing the hope that your children will
grow up understanding the value of giving and serving because it was always
just a normal part of their lives.
It’s aching when you see his brow furrow as he reads yet another angry
email or sometimes even flat-out hate mail.
BUT it’s also admiring the confidence that builds in him
every single day to know that obedience to a Holy God is so much more important
than the opinions of other humans.
It’s knowing he’s right in the center of a conflict which
involves people he cares about on either side and being helpless to ease that
burden for him.
BUT it’s also the wonderful assurance that the people you
care about have a Christ-centered liaison to help them through their difficult situations.
It’s hearing him get up in the middle of the night because
he can’t sleep after the heart-breaking and/or joy-depleting counseling
session(s) he worked through earlier in the day.
BUT it’s also seeing the fruit of that work in the glorious
transformation of those whose lives have radically changed because of the
Gospel that is never absent from his counseling sessions.
It’s learning to be ready to drop all of our plans for the
day when the phone rings. And it’s finding ways to choose joy when that
happens.
BUT it’s also being able to treasure time together as a
truly special gift rather than a common occurrence that we take for granted.
It’s having zero benefits and almost zero insurance options
that aren’t well beyond what we can afford.
BUT it’s also having an intimate relationship with
Jehovah-Jireh because he has been so very present in our lives and has proven
time and again that he deserves that name.
It's ugly but beautiful. It’s so very hard but so very worth it. It's the best of times but the worst of times. Somehow simultaneously.
It’s an overwhelming job every single day.
BUT it’s also upheld and infused and overcome and surrounded
by an overwhelmingly powerful and helpful God.
It’s a job we are both completely under-qualified for on our own
merit.
And then I would probably add: "PRAY FOR YOUR MAN EVERY DAY! YOU WILL BOTH NEED IT!" :-D